The holiday blues are defined as temporary feelings of anxiety or depression that can occur during the holidays. They can be caused by a number of factors, including:
Unrealistic expectations
Extra stress
Sentimental memories
Seasonal changes, like less sunlight
Changes in diet or routine
Alcohol
Over-commercialization
Inability to be with friends or family
Remembering loved ones who are no longer with us
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Read more from guest writer, Maria Sikoutris Di Iorio, MA, EdS, MFT, LPC:
The holidays are supposed to be a happy time full of celebration, parties and get-togethers. However, sometimes the holiday season can also be a source of the blues, causing depression. It is not unusual for many of us to be feeling sad and lonely during this time. A feeling of melancholy can occur, especially when we have suffered losses. The holidays can be very stressful and sometimes depressing for many. The reasons for the stress and depression vary from over-commitment to loneliness, increased stress, the loss of a loved one, fatigue, inability to be with family, unrealistic expectations, or even family cut-offs.
Depression may manifest itself with headaches, inability to sleep or sleeping too much, agitation, anxiety, decreased interest in activities that normally bring pleasure, isolation, crying often, feelings of being worthless, change in appetite or weight, and low self-esteem.
Allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling. It is normal to miss loved ones or to feel anxious and lonely during this time. Schedule some time with a close friend or relative who you know understands you and validates your feelings. A friend who will just “listen”, not give advice. Talk about your feelings; it can help you understand why you feel the way you do. Helping others is a great mood lifter. Volunteer to help out during this time. When you give of yourself, you always receive back.
I remember the year my dad passed away just two days prior to Christmas. It was a very difficult time for me and my family. We did not celebrate Christmas nor prepare for the day. Grief can cause depression, forgetfulness and stress. The following year, my family and I volunteered at a soup kitchen and found it to be very helpful, knowing we were helping others.
Holiday blues are usually temporary and mild, but depression is more serious and can linger on. If you have thoughts of self harm, confide in someone about how you are feeling or seek professional help immediately. Contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 988 suicide and crisis lifeline.
(Should your feelings persist after the holidays, please consult with your doctor or other medical professional.)
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Reprinted with permission from Maria Sikoutris Di Iorio.
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